Hindsight

In this fascinating episode, Lauren sits down with Dr. Melissa Oleson aka “The Poop Lady” to teach us how to breathe, sit and use the bathroom (because you are likely doing it all wrong). As a physical therapist and content creator with thousands of thousands of followers, Melissa walks us through the surprising links between pelvic floor tension and hip pain, back aches, constipation, and even painful sex.
Melissa shares how a years-long battle with debilitating hip pain that doctors had given up on led her to discover the world of pelvic floor health. Her passion for running meant she was ready to try anything and apparently the answer was…breathing? Melissa’s discovery  that pelvic floor issues are caused by tension, not weakness, motivated her to share educational videos on YouTube and Instagram.
Lauren and Melissa also get into the realities of building an online presence from scratch, the slow grind behind seeming like a success, and what it looks like to build a business while creating a beautiful life with your partner. 
Key Takeaways
Why in three women struggle with pelvic floor issues
The biggest misconceptions in pelvic floor health and why kegels are probably making your pain worse
Why it’s possible to breathe “wrong” and how Melissa can help you fix it
Why stress and chronic fight-or-flight mode keeps your pelvic floor permanently switched on, creating the tension that causes full-body health issues
How Melissa went from 4,000 followers to 300,000+ in YEARS
Why couples therapy is more than just a last resort
Defy by Dr. Melissa, the app she built to navigate men and women from overwhelmed to okay, step by step while in genuine community
 
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Dr. Melissa Oleson is a Doctor of Physical Therapy specialising in pelvic health, and the creator behind the wildly popular YouTube channel and Instagram account that earned her the title "the Poop Lady." After healing her own chronic hip pain through pelvic floor work, Melissa went all-in on educating the world about a part of the body that most would never guess is the root of their chronic pain and/or bathroom issues.
She now reaches over 400,000 people and hosts a wonderful community on her app, Defy by Dr. Melissa. This membership programme guides people through her signature breathing, posture, and pelvic floor approach. Listen to this episode to learn more about how to breathe and discover what Melissa has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Dr. Melissa Oleson
💚 THE APP: Defy by Dr. Melissa - defybydrmelissa.com/join
📹YouTube - @DrMelissaOleson
📱 Instagram - @drmelissaoleson
🖥️ Website - defybydrmelissa.com
📖 Book Recommendation - The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About by Mel Robbins
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - ⁠Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

Gus's story is one of relentless forward momentum. From leaving his military family in war-torn Colombia, to attending university in the U.S., becoming a professional footballer, working with a start-up and fighting the U.S. immigration system, Gus eventually found his true calling as a C-level business consultant for coaches.
In this episode, Lauren and Gus Vidales have a conversation that is equal parts lived experience, business masterclass, and motivational gut-punch. Gus shares how every closed door led him to an open window and every setback formed him into a relentless entrepreneur. Now, he mentors other founders to scale their businesses like crazy. Listen to this episode for inspiration, actionable tips and an interesting origin story.
Key Takeaways
How growing up in a war-torn country taught Gus to take radical ownership instead of playing the victim
Leaving Colombia for a university he'd never visited, in a city he'd never heard of
How the US immigration process became a headache for his 9-5s and the unlikely catalyst for his entrepreneurial career
The four pillars Gus designed to grow every coaching business in any niche
Why client fulfilment is essential and the real cost of overpromising
The crucial difference between looking for shortcuts and compressing time
Green flags he actually looks for in coaching clients who are ready to level up
 
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Gus Vidales is a marketing consultant and business strategist who mentors coaches ready to turn their knowledge into scalable, high-profit businesses. After a decade navigating the US immigration system, a brief career as a professional footballer, and years working inside a coaching company he helped grow to seven figures a month, Gus now works one-on-one with coaches across more than 20 niches. His approach is simple, direct, and results-driven: no modules, no group calls, just high-level consulting built around the individual. Listen to this episode to discover what Gus has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Gus Vidales
📱 Instagram - @gus.vidales
📹YouTube - @GusVidalesBusiness
🖥️ Website - thecoachingos.com
📖 Book Recommendations
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan
The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness by Jeff Olson
Proverbs - A Book in the Bible (read here or watch The Bible Project summary)
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - ⁠@bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

In this incredible and informative episode, Lauren sits down with Vicki Alexia, founder of Partner With Her Cycle, to explore why understanding the female hormonal cycle might be the most underrated relationship tool. Vicki makes a compelling case that cycle syncing it's an essential framework for deeper empathy, better communication, and relationships that actually work for both partners.
Lauren opens up about her experience with PMDD and how life changing it’s been to track her cycle. Patrick (the boyfriend) has been along for the ride, becoming an expert in Lauren’s hormones alongside her. Understanding her cycle has transformed their relationship from chaotic, unexplained arguments to a strong partnership built on genuine understanding. 
Lauren and Vicki explore the science behind the 28-day cycle, the cost of ignoring it, and the surprising power of teaching men to understand it too. Whether you're brand new to cycle awareness or already living cyclically, you will learn something in this episode!
 
Key Takeaways
What it actually means to build your work, movement, and social life around your cycle
Lauren's personal journey from hormonal chaos to PMDD diagnosis — and what finally helped
Why presenting cycle syncing as a biohacking tool helps men empathize with their partners
How men who learn this framework report less friction, more confidence, and better relationships
Why your luteal phase is your best bullshit detector
The ROI of effort and how living with your 28-day cycle can transform date night
How truly life changing it is to track your cycle and finally understand your brain!
 
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Vicki Alexia is the founder of Partner With Her Cycle, a coaching practice dedicated to helping men understand the female hormonal cycle so they can show up as better partners, friends, and collaborators. After burning out three times and losing her period entirely, Vicki turned her own health crisis into a deep dive on her cycle.
She works with couples and individuals to bridge the gap between understanding the female body and male emotional intelligence. Vicki’s coaching sessions are designed to build frameworks for communication, empathy, and connection that are rooted in biology. Listen to this episode to discover what Vicki has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Vicki Alexia
📱 Instagram - @vickialexia_
🖥️ Website - partnerwithhercycle.com
📖 Book Recommendations
Woman Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
The Nature of Psyche: Its Human Expression by Jane Roberts
(Lauren’s Life-Changing Recommendation!) Period Power: Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You by Maisie Hill
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

In this episode, Lauren talks to Jade Lee Robertson about the root of generational harm that goes unaddressed in families, schools, workplaces, and institutions. As a storyteller, law student, mom and soon-to-be host of Unspoken podcast, Jade Lee Robertson reframes the typical question (“Why didn’t someone speak up?”) to address the underlying causes: “Why didn’t they feel safe to say anything?”
Jade draws on her own lived experience of childhood sexual abuse, racial discrimination, and domestic violence to explore what she calls "the architecture of silence.” She describes the layered and often invisible systems that teach people, from a very young age, that their voice is unwelcome.
Lauren and Jade talk about motherhood, nervous system regulation, inner child work, and the structural forces that continue to silence the most vulnerable. This episode is raw, honest, and empowering so we can be forces of change in our relationships and spaces.
 
Key Takeaways
Why shame thrives in silence, and storytelling can be its own form of justice
How the "architecture of silence" manifests in families, schools, workplaces, and governments
What happens to the innocence and instincts that children are born with and how can we do a better job of protecting them?
How to be a genuinely safe adult, for people of all ages
The Guard Dog, Medusa, and the Inner Child: three personifications of ourselves that help with compassionate and nervous system regulation
Why "hurt people hurt people" is NOT an excuse 
How the small, daily moments of parenting are where generational cycles are actually broken
 
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Jade Lee Robertson is an Aboriginal Australian advocate, writer, law student and mom who works at the intersection of trauma, justice and cultural safety. Drawing on her lived experience and background in public service, Jade has become a compelling voice for survivor storytelling and systemic change. Listen to this episode to discover what Jade has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Jade Lee Robertson
📱 Instagram and TikTok - @jadeleerobertson
🖥️ Substack - Un/spoken @jadeleerobertson
🎙️Podcast (coming soon!) - Un/spoken on Spotify and Apple Podcasts
📖 Book Recommendations
Black Witness: The Power of Indigenous Media by Amy Maguire
Woman Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways: Dynamic Techniques for Turning Fear, Indecision, and Anger Into Power, Action, and Love by Susan Jeffers, PhD
Black Thoughts Matter by Dr. Chelsea Watergo
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

Hi my loves! Today’s episode is a brief reflection and quick update that we will be returning with more beautiful interviews on April 16th. 
I have adored these transformational conversations so far, and I’m looking forward to many more. Please keep sending messages about the mindset shifts and new perspectives you’ve learned because I absolutely love hearing them.
I started Hindsight so we can learn from one another, look back at our own lives and find those lessons worth passing forward. Each conversation has been a wonderful exploration into what it means to be human and live our complicated lives.
I’ve been consuming every single book our guests have recommended (see their show notes for your new reading list!) and creating content around what lessons I’m learning:
 
What I’ve Been Thinking About:
Feminine Rage & Cycle Tracking
Consistency in Content Creation
Building My Dream Life
Personal Brand > Industry Niche
Learning Claude
Sober-Curious Living
 
About My Instagram
So my boyfriend made the fatal mistake of betting me that I couldn't grow my Instagram from 120 followers on Jan. 1st to 50k in under a year. When I inevitably succeed, he's paying for my DREAM trip to Japan!! (Here's how it's going so far. 👀)
I'm documenting every single thing as I go so you can literally replicate it for whatever account you're trying to grow. And, as you can see from the list above, I’m not just posting a thousand reels on how to get followers. This is my life as I’m living it so there’s everything from my (insanely valuable) insights as a social media strategist to being a woman with a luteal phase.
No bullshit and no advice from someone who figured it out after they already went viral. Come follow along on Instagram @bylaurendudley and let's kick his ass together!
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at ⁠theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

There’s a moment in life where everything looks right on paper but on a deeper level, it doesn't feel right. In this episode, Lauren sits down with one of her closest friends for a chaotic and fun conversation about how she has absolutely transformed.
Maya’s journey is the perfect example of what it looks like to follow that pull even when it makes absolutely no sense. After building a successful career in pharmaceutical advertising in New York, she walked away from it all to travel the world. Maya shares her experience choosing expansion over comfort.
Lauren and Maya get honest about the tension between stability and freedom, what happens when you outgrow a life you once loved, and the courage it takes to start over because you are curious about what else life has to offer.
Maya's story takes us across continents, through the isolation and unexpected beauty of COVID in Cape Town, and into a deeply transformative period of self-discovery. From navigating burnout and identity shifts to exploring meditation, yoga, and somatic practices, Maya opens up about the inner work that changed how she sees herself and what she wants from life. This episode is a powerful reminder that sometimes, the most aligned path is the least predictable. 
 
Key Takeaways
Why travel and new environments expand your perspective like nothing else can
How personal growth requires sitting with past experiences you’ve avoided
What meditation actually means and why it’s not just emptying your brain
How all your different experiences come together to create your life path
Why staying curious and willing to be uncomfortable is essential for long-term growth
Building a career as a multi-passionate person
 
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Maya is a lover of the ocean, one of Lauren’s best friends, a certified yoga teacher, former pharmaceutical copywriter, and writer who has completely  transformed on her path of creativity, self-discovery, and personal growth. After leaving a successful career in advertising to travel the world, she has lived in multiple countries and built a life rooted in exploration and intentional living. Now based in Cape Town, Maya is deepening her work in meditation, yoga, and breathwork, while also exploring creative projects including writing and AI-driven storytelling. Listen to this episode to discover what Maya has learned in Hindsight.
 
Maya’s Recommendations
The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
The Power of Now: A guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
Favorite Podcast (other than Hindsight of course!): Hidden Brain
Also Mentioned
Leen’s Podcast Episode and her program, Beyond
Lauren’s Current Read (with Patrick) - The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
 
Connect with Maya Faya Franco-Tayar
📱 Instagram - @mayafayaa
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley⁠
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at ⁠theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

In this episode, Lauren sits down with Gabriela Flax to talk about why everyone should be proactively building flexibility, financial independence, and leverage well before they need to rely on it. We chat about career ownership, personal branding, and why more women should be thinking about what she calls “trimester zero.” 
Gabriela shares how her experience with burnout and desire to build a career around her zone of genius led her to rethink traditional job security. Rather than relying on a single employer or income stream, she focuses on building multiple forms of career equity that give people more control over how they work and earn.
The conversation explores why personal branding is no longer optional, how the creator economy is reshaping opportunity, and why the next generation of professionals may need a completely different approach to career planning than the one many of us were taught.
If you’ve ever wondered how to future-proof your career, build financial autonomy, or create more freedom in how you work, this episode is exactly what you’ve been looking for!
 
Key Takeaways
Why Gabriela encourages women to plan for “trimester zero” before having children
“Micro-squiggles” and how these shifts can turn a boring career into a life you love
The limitations of traditional career advice in today’s rapidly changing economy
How building multiple forms of career equity can protect your long-term opportunities
Why personal branding has become a critical skill
The mindset shift from seeking security to creating leverage
How the creator economy is opening new paths to independence and influence
Practical ways to start building flexibility and optionality into your career today
 
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Gabriela Flax is a career coach and creator of Pivot School. She is a powerhouse of information and inspiration for people who want to change their career path, whether that’s with “micro-squiggles” or a full 180 degree revamp. Gabriela is active on Substack, LinkedIn and TikTok where she shares actionable tips on how to prepare in your “trimester zero” and what it means to build a life around your zones of genius. Listen to this episode to discover what Gabriela has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Gabriela
📱 TikTok - @gabriela_flax
📱 Instagram - @gabrielaflax
📄 Substack - gabrielaflax.substack.com
🖥️ Website - stan.store/GabrielaFlax
🤯 Product Recommendation
Wisper Flow: Desktop Transcription App
📖 Book Recommendations
Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy
10X is Easier Than 2X: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More by Doing Less by Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan
The Surrender Experiment: My Journey Into Life’s Perfection  by Michael Singer
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley⁠
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - ⁠Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

Today’s guest is Leen, a coach and yoga teacher whose powerful presence Lauren  first experienced at the Retreat Yourself wellness festival outside Cape Town. Before she even spoke a word, the entire room was captivated. During Leen’s pleasure manifestation ritual, the space filled with more than a hundred people transformed by a shared experience of joy, connection, and possibility.
Leen shares the deeply personal moments that led her to leave a conventional career, follow her intuition, and build a life centered around embodiment, pleasure, and spiritual practice. We learn more about tantric yoga and the daily rituals that keep Leen centered.
Lauren and Leen talk about a major struggle for high-achieving  women: the constant pressure to produce, achieve, and care for everyone else while our own pleasure and creativity fall to the bottom of the list. Leen encourages us to prioritize the time and space to connect with our own pleasure and learn to create safety in our bodies.
If you’ve ever felt the pull toward a more grounded life, but wondered what it actually takes to follow it, this conversation will leave you with plenty to think about.
 
Key Takeaways
What a pleasure manifestation ritual actually is  and why it’s so powerful
Leen’s journey from a traditional career in Brussels to teaching yoga and tantra
How conditioning from society and family can shape our choices
Why pleasure and embodiment are essential for creativity, intuition, and wellbeing
The importance of making space for joy, play, and non-productive time
How reclaiming pleasure can change the way we live, work, and relate to others
The work Leen does helping women release shame and reconnect with their selves
How tantric principles can deepen intimacy and connection in long-term relationships
The role of masculine and feminine energy in attraction and polarity
Why becoming your most authentic self naturally creates magnetism
 
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Leen is an certified tantric Hatha Yoga teacher and a certified Sex, Love, and Relationship VITA coach who has been helping people connect with their pleasure for last 10 years. She was born in Belgium but lives as a citizen of the world, traveling to learn and facilitate sessions for pleasure and embodiment. Listen to this episode to discover what Leen has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Leen
📱 Instagram - @leen.s.coaching
🖥️ Website - leen-s.com
🎙️Podcast - Sex & Soul on Spotify and Apple Podcasts
📖 Book Recommendations
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer
Books by David Deida, the Grandfather of Polarity
Beyond is a high-level immersion program for successful women that starts in April. 
For couples, Unstoppable Lovers opens in May 2026. 
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - ⁠Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

Hi, just me today! I woke up with a lot on my mind and challenged myself by hitting record. Today’s episode is my hindsight about relationships, intuition, discomfort, and patterns worth unlearning. 
In this solo episode, I’m sharing four reflections that have been top of mind for me lately. This one is personal, a little woo-woo in places, and very much a stream-of-consciousness (but cleaned up by my editor) download. If you’ve been feeling stuck or like the universe is trying to tell you something more, then this conversation is for you.
 
Key Takeaways
Insights from a recent wellness festival and psychic reading
Rethinking the idea that relationships should always be “improving”
Learning to allow “winter seasons” in relationships without panic
What it means to follow the breadcrumbs in your life
Why ignoring your intuition keeps you stuck
My growing curiosity around Taoist philosophy and the flow of life
The tension between stability and the desire to explore
Why discomfort is often a sign that you are living fully, so embrace it!
Radical accountability vs. victim mindset
Why feeling your emotions matters, and so does knowing how to move on
The relationship patterns I see people repeating (and why)
Becoming someone you actually admire
 
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Resources from Today’s Episode
🎙️“Out of Your Mind: Essential Listening from the Alan Watts Audio Archives” on Spotify
📖Tao Ta Ching: The Essential Translation of the Ancient Chinese Book of the Tao by Lao Tzu
📱Amanda Fowler on Instagram - ⁠@justmandss
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at ⁠theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley

What happens when you stop building your life by default…and start designing it on purpose? In this episode of Hindsight, Lauren sits down with Annica, a former restaurant critic turned menu psychology expert, for an honest conversation about curiosity, independence, and what it really means to build a life that fits your joy.
From growing up on a tiny Swedish island to travelling young to building a highly specialized business in hospitality, Annica shares how following her natural interests led her to unexpected success and freedom.
We talk about menu psychology, building a business that fits your life instead of what’s expected, choosing to be childfree, and why your 40s and 50s might actually be your best years yet.
 
Key Takeaways
Growing up on a tiny Swedish island and how independence starts early
Why curiosity has been Annica’s lifelong superpower
The surprising psychology behind how customers read menus and how Annica because the “Menu Geek”
Why charging for value (not time) changes everything
The “pub test” rule for choosing clients
Building a business that prioritizes lifestyle over scale
The unexpected joy (and obsession) of pickleball
Confidence, boundaries, and caring less what people think in midlife
Being childfree by choice  and navigating societal expectations
Why long-term relationships need both togetherness and independence
The book that validated Annika’s entire business philosophy
New episodes every week on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube. Subscribe and if a conversation inspires you, share it with a friend who would love these insights too.
Annica Wainwright is the “Menu Geek” and she lives out her love of food by helping restaurants refine their guest experience and connect with the people eating at their table. She is passionate about travel, pickleball and enjoying life to the fullest. Listen to this episode to discover what Annica has learned in Hindsight.
 
Connect with Annica
📱 Instagram - @2_forks
🖥️ Website - 2forks.co.uk
🖥️ LinkedIn -  Annica Wainwright: Biggest Menu Geek in the World
📖 Book Recommendation - Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek
 
Connect with Lauren Dudley
📱 Instagram - @bylaurendudley⁠
🖥️ Website - Purpose-First Social Media at ⁠theauxo.com⁠
📖 Poetry Collection - Phoenix: Rising from the Ashes by Lauren Marie Dudley